Is it known, or are there really secrets to a winning mentality? Considering there are so many people walking around with their heads down, or complaining about everything and anything, my guess is there truly are secrets. You see there are a ton of secrets in life, but they are only secrets when we are not aware of them.
After all, isn’t that what a secret really is? It’s merely just not having information that someone else may have.
SECRET: not known or seen or not meant to be known or seen by others .
This can apply to so many areas in life. People admire other people with good earnings or what is to be considered good jobs or careers all the time. But if someone has had so many years of training for their job, maybe they hold the secret for that particular position.
In no way does it mean that they have some super power. What it does mean is that they are focused, and through hard work and consistency they gained the knowledge needed to prosper at the position they were seeking. You might say they uncovered a secret.
The following article is designed to help you understand that the only thing holding you back from having the mentality to succeed and prosper, is the understanding of what to do and what not to do. There is no science to it. Certain people are not luckier than others. Basically it comes down to learning something that you did not know before.
1) Take Responsibility For The Results Of Your Decisions:
Waking up every day with a chip on your shoulder is like walking around with a grenade and the pin out. Eventually you are going to blow up. If you put blame on everyone else for the choices you have made in your life, it’s time to take a long look in the mirror.
It’s ok to make mistakes, everyone does. There is no such thing as a perfect person. There may be people who in your eyes look perfect, but this is only due to a comparison you are making. If you ask that same person, I bet they could find someone who looks perfect in their eyes.
Most people are not aware of why they are in the position they are in. Usually it is summed up to bad luck, or someone else’s fault. I was guilty of this, and once I accepted responsibility for my decisions, it opened up a new world for me. If you ever heard the term ” you have to love yourself before you can have love for someone else”, its almost the same principle.
In order to flourish in life , you have to come to terms with how you got where you are. Understanding that there are circumstances in life that possibly are uncontrollable, for those we are not referring to.
2) Understand That Without Failure There Is No Success:
If the fear of failure is weighing you down, perhaps it is the reason you may have a lack of success. No one has had success in life without facing some kind of failure. The problem is we have been programmed wit a false view of failing. Do You think the first boat ever made was perfect? The average millionaire has failed many of times before having any success.
It is said that Thomas Edison failed about a thousand times before he invented the light bulb. …HE INVENTED THE LIGHT BULB.
Whenever you fail at something , you are figuring out a way not to do something, or you are getting closer to doing something right. If you try something and you are not successful, you are doing much better than not trying at all.
“Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly rubies“ J.K. Rowling
Failure can lead to all kinds of self discoveries. It builds character and strength, while improving on one’s mental capacity if handled correctly.
3) Separate Yourself From Negativity:
Let’s face it, misery loves company. You’ve heard the saying a million times. That’s because its 100 percent accurate. Someone who always complains needs someone to voice their unhappiness to.
Negativity is the ultimate killer to having a winning mentality. The idea is to be in a high energy vibe is much as possible. You may think this is impossible but I assure you it’s not.
Surely you have come across those people that make you say to your self, ” why is he always so happy” or ” god she is so annoying.” Now I bet you really don’t think they are all that annoying. Instead it’s more a feeling of why cant I feel like that?
There are many ways to get rid of negativity . The most important one is to rid yourself of negative people. No successful person surrounds themselves with negative people. It just doesn’t happen. It’s nothing more than a distraction, that can be eliminated.
Now eliminating a friendship is not necessarily a must. There are always choices. You can try and talk to them and nicely ask if they could calm it down with the complaining. You could also show them this article … wink wink . And last you could cut down the amount of time you spend together.
Try and remember you are doing this to improve yourself, not to punish anyone. Most of the time they will understand, and if they don’t maybe they are not such a good friend after all.
Another type of negativity comes in the form of a problem, or when something bad happens. Anything that happens to us only has the result that we give it. This is why two people can have the same thing happen to them, but each have a different way of how it affects them. For instance, if someone makes 75,000$ dollars a year in salary, is this considered to be a high, low or average salary?
The answer to that depends on who you are asking. I bet if you ask someone making 30,000 a year, they would say hi. And how about someone making 150,000? You get the picture. If you let something bother you, it will.
4) Listen To Or Read Motivational Excerpts:
One of the biggest secrets to a winning mentality is getting and staying motivated. Developing a winning mentality is not easy, especially if you are use to being in a different state of mind. You have to retrain your mind, by listening to positive messages or reading positive books or blogs as much as possible.
Whenever I am driving in my car, I am listening to some form of motivational speech or podcast. Always something positive or of a learning type. The thing you want to avoid is listening to the news or any other type of derogatory information.
Try and avoid watching the news at home also as much as possible. Most of it comes from negativity. The idea is to keep positivity flowing as much as possible. In this case when something negative does arise, you will begin to realize you now have control of the situation, and it is only as bad as you want it to be.
5) Keep Yourself Moving:
Lazy: unwilling to work or use energy.
Do you think people with winning mentalities are lazy? I can guarantee you that people that have a winning mentality are always on the go. There is no room for watching tv, or relaxing on the couch.
Sometimes there has to be some pushing , but for the most part when you are in this state of mind, a high energy very positive state, the result is a natural high. There is a vigor that is brought on by following all the secrets to a winning mentality.
When the weather is gray or rainy, or when its a Monday morning and you are the only one smiling. These are the results of being in a high energy state. You will feel like you are on speed, and it is important to use your energy to your advantage and keep yourself moving.
Don’t think that you have to kill yourself, but don’t be a couch potato either. Always being on the go gives you a sense of purpose, it makes you feel alive and also keeps you youthful. When we slow down , we tend not to use our brain cells as much.
Along with being lazy comes being over weight or out of shape. Of course there is always sometime when you have to relax, but make sure you learn the difference between being lazy and taking a rest.
6) Be THANKFUL For What You Have:
Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness:
One of the biggest secrets to a winning mentality is having gratitude. Not faking that you are thankful, but actually believing it. The problem with most people is they complain about trivial things. No one has a perfect life. People may act like their lives are perfect, but there is no such thing as a perfect life.
Life is always going to have problems. But everything is how you handle it. You have to look around and you will see that there are people with much greater obstacles or negativity than you or I could ever imagine. And some how there are so many of them who just continue to have a genuine smile.
People like this are not crying boohoo because of things that happened to them , but instead they are grateful for life and the blessings they do have. Take for example the 24 yr old who just got out of the service, but lost a limb in a bombing. How many stories do we see like this? It happens time after time. If they can rise above, which they do, than so can you.
Now we are not even talking about just dealing with it, most of the time they are running marathons or doing more than the average person will ever do. People like this realize that the alternative is death, and being alive is a lot better.
When you take this behavior , you will develop a mindset you never thought was possible, and your life will improve with this subtle change alone.
7) Secrets To A Winning Mentality Number One Rule
You control your life!! YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE TO LEAD A GREAT LIFE!! If you are working hard at something that does not give you pleasure, find something that does and go at it. Don’t walk around with hostility. This gets you no where in life. No one owes you or me anything.
We all have the ability to go out and create a life of happiness and fulfillment. Everyone has a chance for greatness. Some may be quicker than others in certain areas, but determination and hard work trumps talent or knowledge. It’s the action takers that achieve greatness, those that do not give up when there is a block in the road.
” A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new ” – Albert Einstein
At all costs find a way to forgive those that you feel have wronged you. This is not a benefit for them, but for you to reach your higher self. Holding on to hate is like poison in the body and does nothing but inspire negativity.
Most importantly never give up!! Remain in a higher state, forgive, have gratitude, and go after what inspires you to have a winning mentality!!
The secrets to a winning mentality is just learning to have the mindset that we were meant to have from our greater source, what ever that may be. Some people have mastered some of these secrets, others have mastered all while a majority has not mastered any.
Being open to applying these secrets will lead you to a life worth living. I can attest to the magic of changing your beliefs and uncovering theses secrets. Where there was always stress and doubt will be replaced with drive and confidence. Your experiences with those around you will be blissful and they will want to know what happened to you.
You will want to run out and try to change everyone, trust me. However not everyone is open to change, in order to change someone they have to want to change first. But that doesn’t mean you can’t try, just don’t hold it against them if they aren’t receptive.
So Which Secret Are You Going To Start With?? Leave a comment and let me know, I would love to hear from you!!